Best online dating strategies
"You're only going to be in the same place and time for a very short finite period," she says. Davis' rules of thumb are six messages back and forth on dating sites, 20 to 30 text exchanges if you're on a dating app.
If by two weeks of messaging, you haven't met up, someone's got to pull the trigger and suggest a date."You really want to get to meeting each other and make sure that there really is some sort of real connection before you develop a virtual fantasy of the relationship in your head," Mc Cann said. We learned that months ago from standup comic and actor Aziz Ansari and his book about dating, "Modern Romance," but in... We learned that months ago from standup comic and actor Aziz Ansari and his book about dating, "Modern Romance," but in...
Don't procrastinate: "Messages sent within the first 24 hours are twice as likely to receive a response," said Jean-Marie Mc Grath of Hinge.
The majority of users take up to 2.5 days to start a conversation, however.
"It's like the text version of too much too soon."Momentum is important: "If there's going to be things that are barriers to the momentum, you want to make that clear up front," Davis said.
Which is why Mc Cann likes the sense of urgency that location-based apps like Tinder present to users.
The weather also plays a factor: It is "cuffing season," after all, the time of year when humans are more apt to want to stay in and cuddle up.
Your odds are even better on Sundays: Add perusing dating apps into your "easing into the weekday" Sunday night routine. Sunday is the average peak of traffic for Ok Cupid, aka your best chance of striking up a conversation with a potential suitor.
Encourage a match to answer by feeding them material."You can say something like 'Katy Perry or Taylor Swift?
' or a cute opening line with two choices that kind of gives you a little idea of who they are," Mc Cann said.
I hate to disappoint the masses, but I have to say: I had a pretty good time. (Jacklyn Collier)Be genuine: Look at a dater's profile and write to them about something specific, so they know that you're not just randomly throwing out opening lines to every single person that is on the app, Mc Cann suggests.